Singing is Like Great Sex!

There are scads of performers gyrating on stages around the globe each night and an equal number of people having sex.  Some will be adventurous and make the moment a peak experience while others will go through the motions, waiting for magic that never comes.  A great performance, like an orgasm, only occurs when people are willing to let go.  Arena performers have a tremendous advantage with respect to foreplay.  The audience is already in love.  The star just steps on stage and the crowd roars with approval.  If this seems unfair, just remember: Fan loyalty is built from years of great performances -- starting in the clubs, on YouTube or on a TV talent show.  

The purpose of “paying your dues” in clubs and online is to expose yourself to strangers (I’ll try and keep the puns to a minimum).  Those who relate to you will come together in support.  Should you win a majority vote; the momentum will sway the undecided.  It’s called collective consciousness, and it’s definitely a peak experience for all involved.  This will never happen, though, if you aren’t willing to risk rejection. 

No one likes to get shot down, but some people you sing for will simply not agree with your tastes.  That’s life.  But before a listener can decide you’ll have to connect with yourself first.  This is usually where the inexperienced get into trouble and feel compelled to push the voice to extremes.  Besides being lousy foreplay, coming on too strong may scare away potential fans.  Singing with more force does not equal more emotion.  If your music requires you to sing hard, then do so.  But what bonds people together is a belief that something is true.  If your singing doesn’t authentically represent you, people will feel it and become indifferent – the worst reaction of all!

Only after you connect with your passion will people make an up or down vote. Gather all the up votes in one place and you’ll have the necessary environment to make some magic.  It’s at that point when you can heighten their experience by teasing and timing your set so it peaks just right.  Make your listeners feel like you are focused solely on them and they will never forget you.  Soon your draw will require an arena and your performances will always finish with the big “O” (an ovation of course)!